Monday, April 20, 2009

5 Stages of Grief

This isn't my first break up but is still pretty significant. To make sure I am going through this "normally" I checked the stages of grief.

5 Stages:
  • Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.” Been feeling this practically every moment the pain comes up.

  • Anger:Why is this happening? Who is to blame?” Feel this when I realize the nature of our breakup.

  • Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.” Feel this when I think back on what I could have done. But know it is too late and probably wouldn't have changed anything.

  • Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.” Of course! But not too severe.

  • Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.” Waiting for this.

Not all of these occur in a neat little order, you go through it like riding waves. Unfortunately I am trying to just stop myself from thinking he is going to call or write me. I guess I am mostly just trying to understand and accept this is now my reality.

Anyways, I hope these accounts aren't too blubbery for you.


  1. Breakups are rough. Take heart and comfort in your friends.

  2. Thank you I have been hanging out with Kristen and her cats...its been helpful. Thought of getting a cat myself...but maybe too expensive and the poor thing would have to live in a small house.

  3. I'm glad I could help somehow. I don't have much advice but I do have squeezable kitties=^^=
    Heather will be here while I am gone so feel free to come to place if you just need some feline loving. I don't mind at all.

  4. Breakups are hard and they suck big time. They say it takes 1/2 the time you were with that person to get over that person. I can attest that it really does take time. I know "time" is such a cliche in moments like this but it does take time. Be patient in that, let time work it's magic. Keep busy, let friends help you as much as possible. Acceptance will come to you, I promise that and not only will acceptance come but there will be a moment when you look at your life and the people in it and realize they could never be there if you hadn't gone through the breakup.

  5. I just started reading your blog recently. I'm sorry you're going through this. I find it helps to look at information like that too, though, it reminds me that there will be an end to it.


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